Had to take you off ignore for context.
Back for more I see?
Hand in the cookie jar how?
Was about to ask you that
It sounds like we're all saying the same thing. So why are you fighting us?
There is no us and I told you what my motivations are
This is what I mean, man. After I figured out you're not a bad guy,
You haven't figured out anything about me you're blindly shooting in the dark hoping for a hit
I've been constantly trying calm you down and get you on the same page with us.
The oft-used phrase "calm down" - a well-meaning yet woefully inadequate response to someone's emotional distress. Telling someone to "calm down" can come across as dismissive, minimizing, and, quite frankly, lazy. Here's why:
Lack of empathy: When we tell someone to calm down, we're not acknowledging their feelings or validating their emotional experience. We're essentially saying, "Your emotions are not important right now; just stop feeling them."
Oversimplification: Emotions are complex and multifaceted. A simple "calm down" doesn't address the underlying issues or concerns that triggered the emotional response in the first place. It's a Band-Aid solution that doesn't promote meaningful resolution or understanding.
Dismissing their experience: Telling someone to calm down can be perceived as diminishing their feelings, implying that their reaction is unwarranted or excessive. This can lead to feelings of frustration, anger, or hurt, exacerbating the situation.
Lack of active listening: When we tell someone to calm down, we're not engaging with their concerns or listening actively to what they're trying to communicate. We're not making an effort to understand their perspective or offer support.
Avoiding conflict or discomfort: Let's face it - telling someone to calm down can be a way to avoid dealing with uncomfortable emotions or conflict. It's a way to sidestep the issue and maintain a sense of control, rather than engaging with the person and working through the problem together.
In summary, telling someone to calm down can be a tired trope that fails to acknowledge and validate their emotions, oversimplifies complex issues, dismisses their experience, and avoids active listening and conflict resolution. Instead of relying on this lazy response, we should strive to engage with others in a more empathetic and supportive manner, actively listening to their concerns and working together to find meaningful solutions.